There are millions of people out there suffering from depression, anxiety, stress, and general unhappiness. Most people look outward for a source of happiness without realizing that the true source of happiness comes from within.
If you’re looking for a way out of the misery, then you automatically have a long and arduous road ahead of you. Finding true happiness within yourself is one of the hardest things you will ever do – but it also offers many great rewards.
Now, if you’ve been following my blog – you’ll notice there is one thing I say often. Happiness is a choice. It truly is. Your mind is a wonderfully complex organic machine. It feeds off of thoughts and emotions. It uses these thoughts and emotions to rule your life. Your brain can be your best friend, or your worst enemy.
In order to feel happy, fulfilled and content – you need the 3 C’s – Choice, Chance & Change. This is not a simple feat however. Over time we train our brains. We live with what we know. We can become addicted to anger, or stress or feelings of depression and anxiety. Keep in mind what you think and feel will rule your life. Once our brains are tuned into negative feelings – like any other addiction, the cycle is hard to break. But it can be done. With time and determination you can change your brain patterns from a negative lifestyle to a positive one.
It all starts with a choice. You must sincerely choose to be happy. Even on your worst days. This is hard. I won’t lie. Our choices in life determine our fate. If we choose to only see the negative, you are feeding your brain negativity and your brain will only know negativity and therefore force you into a negative lifestyle. Negativity begets negativity. One the bright side, the same can be said for positivity.
If you’ve lived with negativity for so long and one day choose happiness – your brain will fight back. You are introducing something that your brain is not used to. Like trying to fill a gas tank with oil instead of gas, the vehicle will react badly. You have to fight through this, because without making the choice, you cannot take a chance and you will not make a change.
Making a choice is not easy, but once you’ve made that choice, you now have to take a chance. They kind of go hand-in-hand. Taking the chance can be scary, but it’s really not that bad, out of the 3 C’s this is by far the easiest. Why? Because part of taking a chance is making the choice. If you’ve made the choice, you’ve already done half the work that is required to take a chance. When you commit to making a choice, you’ve already committed to taking a chance.
The hardest part of the 3 C’s is making a change. We are habitual creatures. If we live with negativity and our brains only know negativity, then making a change is the hardest thing you’ll ever do because you are automatically putting yourself outside of your comfort zone and this (especially for those who suffer depression or anxiety) is a real challenge. We all have our little bubble, our cage that (we feel) keeps us safe. Once you decide to step outside that bubble, you’re forcing yourself into unknown territory. You will automatically have a heightened sense of awareness. You will feel on edge, scared, stressed or anxious. But just like learning to ride a bicycle, the more often you do it, the more comfortable you become with this new change and your bubble expands to include this change.
Now in the sense of happiness and mental health, the same rings true. If you decide today that it’s time for a change. You have already made a choice and are willing to take a chance. But because we are habitual and we live with what we know – change now seems extremely scary. What if we fail, what will people think? What if this doesn’t work. This is self doubt. This is your brain fighting against you because you’ve introduced something new to it and it doesn’t like it. You’re scrambling your brain waves, so it’s only natural that your brain will fight back. Push through. Trust me, in the end, your brain will thank you for it. Baby steps. Don’t expect change to happen over night. It won’t. It took me years before I will finally able to say that I am truly happy with who I am and that no matter what life throws at me, I will remain happy and healthy. That is the choice I choose to make.
If you feel you need help with this, please drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org and lets talk! If you think this is easy, you’re dead wrong and setting yourself up for disappointment. If you think this is scary or hard – you’re absolutely right, but I am here to help you along the way.
Until Next Time.